||Create a special menu together of all the ways you can comfort someone who’s sad or upset.
You will need:
- Sheets of thin card
- Felt-tipped pens.
What you do:
- Work together to make a list of at least twelve different things you could do to comfort someone who was sad.
- Perhaps they would like a hug, someone to play with them, someone to listen to them, or someone to tell them a funny story. Or maybe they would like a back rub, someone to help them with a difficult job, a mug of hot chocolate, or someone to spend time with them just having fun…
- The list that you write down together is like a ‘Comfort Menu’.
- Add ‘Something else’ to the menu in case anyone needs another option.
- Whenever anyone in your family or group feels sad or upset they can choose what they’d like most from the ‘Comfort Menu’ that you made together.
- The items on the list can be numbered like a take-away menu, or maybe each person can mark which ones they like the best.
- The menu can be laminated to protect it.
Some things to talk about together:
- Think about a time when someone comforted you in a way that really helped you to feel better. What was the best thing about the way they comforted you?
- When do you think each person in your family or group most needs to be comforted?
- How can you make sure that you’re comforting each other in the best possible way?
- Design an attractive ‘Comfort Menu’ on a computer. Create a space on the menu where people can show what their favourite comforts are.
- Make a comfort ‘quilt’ by inviting people to write their favourite ways of being comforted on different squares of lightly-patterned paper. Arrange the squares into a patchwork-style collage and stick them onto a larger sheet of paper or thin card to make a piece of comforting wall art.